Elderly folk are often heard to say that they feel invisible. This phenomenon is magnified several times over Christmas when loneliness can be a crippling burden for many. As you prepare to spend time with your family this Christmas, please spare a thought for those who will have to spend this time on their own.
Of course, loneliness at Christmas is not the preserve of the elderly. But it strikes this section of our community particularly frequently. As people age, they often outlive friends and family members, leaving them with fewer people to celebrate with. The absence of a spouse, children, or close friends can create a profound sense of isolation during a season that places such a strong emphasis on family bonds.
When the shops close, the roads empty and the sounds of family and friendship resonate from over the road, that’s when the loneliness and depression kick in.
Another factor contributing to loneliness among the elderly is physical limitation. Mobility issues, chronic illnesses and age-related health concerns can make it difficult for older people to participate in holiday gatherings and traditions. They may be unable to travel to visit family or friends, and even simple tasks like decorating the house or cooking a special meal can become daunting challenges. This physical isolation can lead to feelings of helplessness and sadness, as they miss out on the festivities they once enjoyed.
Social isolation is also a significant contributor to the loneliness experienced by older people at Christmas-time. Many seniors live alone and may not have regular interactions with others. Family members and friends might be caught up in their own holiday plans, leaving the elderly feeling forgotten and neglected. The absence of meaningful social interactions can lead to feelings of depression and despair.
The inevitable commercialisation of Christmas can further exacerbate feelings of loneliness among the elderly. The constant barrage of advertisements depicting idealised family gatherings and lavish gifts can create unrealistic expectations and feelings of inadequacy. Older individuals may feel that they cannot live up to these standards or that they are no longer relevant in a world obsessed with youth and materialism.
Kerikeri Retirement Village will be open over Christmas and New Year. We’ll do our bit to ensure our single residents feel loved and engaged but if you and your family feel like popping in to add extra sparkle to their Christmas please feel free to arrange this in advance through our wonderful team. They’d be delighted to help make this happen.
Equally importantly, why not go the extra yard to bring a little festive cheer to someone nearby who could possibly do with a little extra love this Christmas. Perhaps your children or grand-children could read to an elderly neighbour, or spend some time simply listening to the inevitable stories of her youth. A gift delivered to the old man next door, or an invitation to share Christmas lunch with you, could be the greatest kindness he experiences all year.
Thank you. And here’s wishing you all the joys of the holiday season and a happy, successful and peaceful 2024.
